How To Tell A Girl You Like Her

How do I tell a girl I like her over text?

Download Article Download Article Telling a girl you like her via text message has its merits. It’s ideal when you talk to her more over text than in person, or if you feel too shy to admit your feelings face to face. Try to get to know your crush by hanging out in person and chatting over text. Then, if you confess your feelings and ask her out on a fun date, she’ll definitely get the message that you like her.

  1. 1 Get to know your crush a bit. Your crush may be the prettiest person in the woodwind section, but if you don’t know anything about her, how can you know if she’s someone you’d want to date ? Try to notice the important things about her: if she treats her friends well; if she’s nice to little kids and less popular people; if she’s passionate about something cool.
    • If she’s funny, notice what kind of jokes she makes. A nice person doesn’t hurt other people’s feelings to get laughs.
    • If she’s smart, see if she helps others, too. If she walks the person sitting next to her through a math problem, it’s a sign that she’s kind, too.
  2. 2 Hang out in person. If you go to school together, or have friends in common, figure out a way to talk to your crush a bit in a low-pressure situation. For example, you and your lab partner could collaborate with her and her lab partner or a project. If you want to see her outside of school, maybe she and her friends can come out with you and your friends.
    • If you don’t have any mutual friends, start by talking to her, but skip the pick-up lines. Just smile, greet her by name, and ask about something you both have in common.
    • Group hangs are fun, but they aren’t the same as dates. Remember that you aren’t on a date unless both people know it’s a date.


  3. 3 Figure out if she likes you, Girls aren’t a different species, and they don’t need to be decoded. You won’t be able to know if she likes you just because she plays with her hair or touches your shoulder a certain amount of times. What you can tell is if she enjoys spending time with you.
    • If a girl touches your arm or shoulder a lot, it’s a sign that she feels comfortable around you, which is a good sign.
    • If she initiates plans with you, such as asking to be conversation partners in Spanish class, that means she enjoys your company.
    • If conversation flows naturally when you’re together, you probably have both mutual interests and compatible communication styles. That’s also good news.
  4. 4 Get your crush’s number, Once you’re friendly, and if you’re still interested in your crush, take the next step and get her phone number. If you both hang out and talk already, this won’t be a outrageous request, so stay calm.
    • When you ask, say something simple and matter of fact, like “Can we trade numbers? I want to be the first to hear your opinions on the new Marvel movie.”
    • If you’re working on a project together, this’ll be even more natural. Say “We’ll probably need to meet over the weekend to lay out the newspaper together. Can I text you?”
    • You can also make this part of planning a group hang. Say “I’m stoked for the concert with you, Brian, and Jessica. Can I have your number so we can make sure we meet in the same place?”
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  1. 1 Start with a brief greeting, When you’ve started texting your crush, it’s best to begin in a friendly, open-ended way. A salutation and question initiates conversation, and allows you to gauge whether she’s busy or preoccupied. For example, send a text that says “Hi, what are you up to?” or “Hello, how are you today?”
    • Don’t just say “hi” or “hey.” It sounds lazy, and she might not know what to say in response.
    • Use follow-up questions to show your interest. Ask her to tell you more about her quirky dance teacher, her semifinal softball game, or what it’s like to babysit her little brother.
  2. 2 Text with good spelling and grammar, Texting etiquette is complicated. For instance, everyone knows that ending every text with a period makes you sound angry. You don’t need to write an English paper, but do your best to check your spelling and not put commas where they don’t belong. This will show her that you like her enough to put thought into your writing.
    • “Hi, what’s up? Is the math homework destroying you as badly as it’s destroying me?” looks a lot better than “hi whats ^ is the math hmwrk killing u 2.”
  3. 3 Text in the evening. Most people are more relaxed in the evening, following a busy day at school or work. You’ll have more time to respond to each other’s thoughts this way. Plus, communicating with her at night can feel more romantic than telling her you like her in broad daylight.
    • Make sure not to text after bedtime, which can feel invasive. Wind down the texts after 10 PM or so.
  4. 4 Text when you know she won’t be busy. You want to be able to give your full attention to the conversation, and you want her to be able to give you attention too. This means that it’s best not to text her when she’s told you about other plans. If she’s told you that she’s going out with friends, for instance, give her a little space. You can always text her tomorrow and ask how her girl’s-night-out went. It works the other way, too-don’t text her right before a movie if you know you’ll be distracted.
  5. 5 Steer the conversation in a positive direction. The more upbeat and positive the conversation, the more receptive a girl will be when you tell her you like her. Try to stay away from negative topics that can ruin the mood, such as problems at school or work, or controversial subjects that can upset her and turn conversation sour.
    • Talk about pop culture you have in common. If you’re both giant Potterheads, ask how she feels about the new movie trailer.
    • Joke about something in your daily life you both share. If the school lunch was an inedible casserole, ask if she’s having nightmares about it too.
  6. 6 Revisit topics you’ve discussed before. This shows you’re a good listener and that you care, and that you pay attention to everything she shares with you. For example, if she once mentioned that she likes bowling, ask about her highest score or favorite alley.
  7. 7 Give a sincere compliment, This is often more effective than telling a girl you like her, because it shows you understand her and recognize her best qualities. For example, if you like her knowledge of comics, tell her that you learn something new about the X-Men every time you talk to her.
    • Avoid complimenting your crush’s physical characteristics, like her body or eyes, at this stage. It can come off as creepy.
    • If your crush has recently rocked a performance or other big event, congratulate her on her skills.
  8. 8 Don’t over-text. Texting is fun, but too much of it can become really intense. If you’re texting your crush for several hours a day, it might be time to dial it back a bit. This is especially true if you seem to be putting more effort into your texts than she is.
    • If you text your crush twice and she doesn’t respond, back off for a while. If she’s into you, she’ll text you again when she’s ready.
    • Don’t go too far in the other direction and never text her back. You may be trying to play it cool, but if she feels ignored, she’ll feel bad.
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  1. 1 Plan what you want to say. You don’t need to write yourself a perfect script, but take a little time and figure out when and how to tell your crush that you’re into her. If you think ahead a little bit, you’re less likely to fumble and forget yourself, or blurt out something too intense (“I’ve had a crush on you for seven years!”).
    • Consider that it’s often better to ask someone on a clearly-defined date. This way, you’re telling her that you like her and giving her an opportunity for an action plan.
  2. 2 Know how you’ll deal if you’re rejected, Rejection happens to everyone, and it’s not the end of the world. It’s easiest to say something like “Thank you for telling me! I enjoy hanging out with you as friends, so no worries,” take a bit of space, then return to the friendship after a couple weeks.
  3. 3 Tell her you enjoy spending time together. This is a confident, indirect way to tell a girl you like her without actually saying you like her. Send this text after hanging out together, or even after an official date.
    • For example, you could say something like “I had fun with you tonight and enjoyed your company! Can’t wait to do it again.”
  4. 4 Tell her that you like her, Be simple and direct. This shows that you’re confident and feel strongly enough about your feelings that you’re willing to admit it word for word. Make your statement more personal by sharing what you like most about her. For example, say “I’m into you because you’re so passionate about social justice,” or “I like you because you’re sunny enough to brighten anyone’s day.”
    • Just like with compliments, mention something specific about her personality that you like. For example, tell her that she cracks you up whenever you hang out, or that her commitment to saving the environment is powerful and cool.
  5. 5 Ask her out, Now that you’ve laid your feelings bare, you probably want to take your relationship a step further by dating. The only way to date a girl is, of course, to go on a date with her. After you’ve told her you like her, invite her on an outing for just the two of you. Make it clear that it’s not a “group hang” or a casual thing-it’s a real date.
    • Suggest a specific date and time. This way, if she likes you but can’t make it, she’ll reschedule. If she’s not interested, it’ll be a lot easier on your feelings to hear “I’m sorry, I can’t make it” then “I don’t feel that way about you.”
    • Plan the date around things you both like, like mini-golf and milkshakes. There’s no point in doing something neither of you like!
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Question What can I say if I want to ask her out but we haven’t known each other long? Imad Jbara is a Dating Coach for NYC Wingwoman LLC, a relationship coaching service based in New York City. ‘NYC Wingwoman’ offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Imad services 100+ clients, men and women, to improve their dating lives through authentic communication skills. Dating Coach Expert Answer Support wikiHow by unlocking this expert answer. One thing you can do is start asking them for dating advice. This will sort of throw it out there that you value their opinion, but it will also give you a chance to see how they respond. This can give you a hint of whether they like you back or not. The other thing you can do is just be really straightforward. Say, “Okay, let’s be honest, I know we just met but I think you have a great energy, a great vibe. Do you want to go out some time?”

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Try complementing your text messages with emoticons, which can seem cute and endearing at the time you’re telling her you like her. For example, before sending the text that states you like her, attach an emoticon of a heart, or a happy face with eyes made of hearts.

Advertisement Article Summary X To tell a girl you like her over text, choose a time like the evening, when she’ll most likely be relaxed and not too busy. If you’re nervous about starting the conversation, try a brief and friendly greeting like, “Hi, what’s up? Is the math homework destroying you as badly as it’s destroying me?” That way, she’ll have something to respond to immediately, and won’t be confused about why you’re texting her.

Then, follow up your initial text by steering the conversation in a positive direction, ideally toward something you both like. For example, you could ask for her opinion on something or give her a sincere compliment, so she knows that you like her. You could also revisit something you’ve talked about before, which will show her that you’re a good listener.

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How do you tell my crush I like her?

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  • Question How do you hint to your crush? Joshua Pompey is a Relationship Expert with over 10 years of helping people navigate the online dating world. Joshua has run his own relationship consulting business since 2009 at a success rate of over 99%. His work has been featured in CNBC, Good Morning America, Wired, and Refinery29 and he has been referred to as the best online dater in the world. Relationship Expert Expert Answer You want to definitely be on the playful side as far as communication goes. Keep things right and friendly. Use the body language, some playful touches here and there, try to break away from being in the friend zone, and in subtle ways just communicate that there is potential on more of a romantic and physical level.
  • Question Should I tell my crush that I like them if I know they like me back? Do you want to date your crush? If you like your crush but aren’t interested in dating them, or can’t for whatever reason, they may be hurt or confused by getting mixed signals, so you probably shouldn’t tell them. On the other hand, if you’re interested in dating them, telling them can help you both figure out what you’d like your relationship to be.
  • Question My crush told me he was “done with girls” after a bad breakup a little bit ago. I want to tell him I like him, but I don’t know if he still feels that way and I don’t want to ruin our friendship. What do I do? If your crush is still recovering from the breakup, especially if the relationship was serious, telling him your feelings can make things awkward or make it seem like you were waiting for him and his girlfriend to break up. How recent was the breakup? Does he still seem angry or bitter about relationships, talk about his ex frequently, get annoyed or upset when he’s around her or someone brings her up in conversation, or say he’s not interested in dating when the subject is brought up? Depending on your ages and the intensity and longevity of the relationship, your crush may take awhile to get over the relationship and be willing to date again. Until you’re certain that he’s over his ex, you shouldn’t tell him about your feelings – wait until he’s over the breakup.

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  • Try to make friends with them first. If you are good friends and want to move to the next step, take it slowly; find the right place, time, day, make sure you’re in a good mood, and be relaxed when you talk to them. You will both feel more comfortable as well.
  • If you want to be romantic (or you’re not very good in awkward situations) try writing a love note. Put your feelings for them on it, then slip it in their locker or somewhere they will see it. It would also be cute to possibly “steal” a book or something of theirs playfully, and return it with the note inside, ready for them to “accidentally” find.
  • If your crush doesn’t have feelings for you, just try to act cool and calm.

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  • If you get turned down by somebody, don’t immediately ask another person, especially a friend of that person you just got turned down by.
  • Don’t tell them your feelings in an inappropriate or sexual way. Flirting can work, but not this.
  • If you get turned down, it may seem hard, but you will get over them with plenty of help from family, friends, and the other small joys of living. It just takes time.

Advertisement Article Summary X If you want to tell your crush you like them, wait for a time when you’re alone together without distractions, like between classes or after school. Try to get them laughing before you make your move, so you’re both relaxed and in a good mood.

Then, look them in the eyes and tell them clearly that you like them. For example, you can say something like, “I really like hanging out with you, and I want you to know that I have feelings for you.” This can be a lot to take in, so don’t be offended if they need a little time to think about their feelings.

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Should I tell her I had a crush on her?

Just tell her. Life would be a lot more easier and people would be a lot happier if they communicated their feelings instead of botteling them up and acting like they can read each others’ minds. You never know, maybe she’s interested in you too.

Should I tell a girl I like her?

2. Come Out With It –

  1. Here’s another phrase you may have heard before: “fortune favors the bold” ⚔️
  2. This is also very true in dating!
  3. Women are attracted to men who confidently share their feelings.
  4. So in general, it’s to your advantage to be direct with a girl you have feelings for, and tell her you like her 🗣️ 💕
  • She may not reciprocate your feelings. And getting turned down is never fun.
  • But she’s more likely to reciprocate if you tell her. Seriously: the act of telling her you like her shows you have courage, and women like courage.

So, if you like a girl.

  • You can literally just tell her you like her!
  • Unexpectedly and thoughtlessly announcing your feelings to her the first chance you get probably isn’t the right move ❌
  • But you don’t need to choreograph an elaborate date to tell her you like her, either.

Find time to connect 1×1, and when the moment feels right (maybe she’s smiling at you, or there’s a break in the conversation). say “I like you” 🙂 Want to avoid an awkward silence after you share how you feel? Consider adding framing your statement like a question, for example:

  • “I like you, and I wanted to know if you’d be open to going on a date sometime.”
  • “I like you, and I wanted to know if you’ve ever felt a romantic connection to me too.”
  • “I like you, and I wanted to know if you’d be open to exploring a romantic relationship with me.”

This gives her a direct prompt to respond to, which can illuminate how she feels about you in return. Bonus tip: the more you can hold eye contact when you tell her you like her, the more meaningful the message will be to her ❤️

Should I tell my crush I like?

– The triangle icon that indicates to play Obvi telling someone you have strong feelings for them can be terrifying and majorly risky, but Brown says the conversation is well worth the anxieties. “If he or she is truly a potential lifelong partner, you should definitely give it a go,” he says. “If you don’t, you may wind up looking over your shoulder for the rest of your life and regretting that you fears overcame your desire for love.”

While Brown says there’s no “right time” to admit you have feelings for someone, there are definitely a few factors that play into deciding when you should and shouldn’t initiate this convo. For starters, Brown says it’s super important that you’ve spent enough time with them to really get a feel for who they are: “The time to tell them is after you’ve spent enough time with them to get a true sense of who they are and if you sense that the two of you are compatible in the most important ways that you value,” he explains.

That being said, sometimes outside circumstances might force you to wait a little longer than you’d like to. “For instance, if either one of you is recently on the rebound, I would absolutely wait,” warns Brown. “If there has been a recent traumatic incident such as the death, serious illness, or injury to someone close to either one of you, then it is better to wait until your emotions and thoughts are more even.” This content is imported from poll.

You may be able to find the same content in another format, or you may be able to find more information, at their web site. Unfortunately, Brown says this is not one of those convos you can just casually have over text. Yep, that’s right: Even if the thought of it makes you want to gouge your eyes out, you’ve got to power through the fear and have this conversation IRL.

Specifically, Brown recommends having it somewhere casual and relatively quiet in public. “I recommend a casual setting,” he says. “Maybe take a walk in the park, meet at the beach, or go to any other casual setting where you can both feel free to speak openly.

I highly do not recommend going to crowded public places and certainly not in a bar or a busy restaurant. You want to be in a setting where you are both comfortable as you can be and that is conducive to having an intimate conversation.” Oh, and when you invite them to hang, don’t make it weird. Just casually ask if they want to go for a walk in the park or whatever.

Brown says warning them that you want to “talk about something” might unnecessarily freak them out. Once the two of you are hanging at your quiet, public location of choice, it’s time to tell them how you’ve been feeling. I know initiating the conversation can be terrifying, but Brown says it really doesn’t have to be a huge, embarrassing profession of love.

Just find a natural lull in the conversation and bring it up. “Simply let them know that you’ve been noticing that you find yourself enjoying their company more and more,” he recommends. “Perhaps let them know that when you think of them, you find yourself smiling. It’s even okay to be a bit silly. If the chemistry is mutual, this may not be all that hard to do to begin with.” If you tried to initiate the convo and it didn’t go exactly as you had hoped, don’t sweat it.

“All of this may naturally come out in one conversation, or it may come out over several conversations,” says Brown. “You don’t need to ‘do this perfectly’ in order to be heard and understood. Be gentle with yourself and appreciate the courage you are taking, no matter the outcome.” So this conversation probably went one of two ways. Option One: They felt the same way—yay! In this case, Brown says you should enjoy and see where the conversation goes from there. “If they are feeling the same, you may both want to explore seeing each other more and possibly even being exclusive—if that feels natural for both of you,” he says, adding that “exclusively” is something you want to make sure you “don’t push” at this stage. Candice is a dating expert and the author Just Send The Text, out Feb.2, 2021, which she likes to think of as a 70,000-word-long reminder to be yourself. Follow her on Twitter and Instagram @candicejalili. : How to Tell Your Crush You Like Them – How to Talk to Your Crush

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Download Article Download Article If you have a crush on someone, it can be really hard to work up the courage to let them know. Telling them opens you up to the risk that they might not be interested, but keeping your feelings to yourself can make it really hard to move past the crush.

  1. 1 Think about why you have a crush on this person. When you’re deciding whether to share your feelings with your crush, take some time to be honest with yourself about why you like them, If you and your crush like a lot of the same things, you always have fun when you spend time together, and you have the same values in life (like getting good grades or spending time with your family), you might be a good fit together!
    • If you don’t know your crush very well, you might just be infatuated by their physical appearance or the way they present themselves. If that’s the case, you can sometimes build up an image of them in your head that they can’t live up to, which isn’t the best basis for a healthy relationship.
  2. 2 Spend one-on-one time if you need to get to know your crush better. Instead of just admiring your crush from afar—or rushing into a full confession of your feelings—see if you can come up with a way to spend time around them. That way, you can get to know their character better, and you’ll give them a chance to get to know you, too.
    • If you go to school with your crush, try spending time together by sitting together at lunch, asking for help with a school project, and spending time around their friends.
    • You can also invite your crush to hang out with you and your friends when you get together.
    • If your crush drives and you don’t, ask them if they can give you a ride so you can spend time together!


  3. 3 Watch for signs that your crush likes you, too. If someone likes you, they’ll usually pay a lot of attention to you when you’re around. They might spend time looking at you, or they might always laugh at your jokes, even if they aren’t that funny. These can all be signs that your crush likes you, and you should probably tell them how you feel.
    • You might also notice that your crush remembers little details about you, seems reluctant to say goodbye or leave when you’re around, or finds reasons to brush their hand against yours.
    • Keep in mind that relationships aren’t an exact science. Sometimes, a person might act that way and not mean anything by it.
  4. 4 Don’t let fear hold you back. It can be really tempting to avoid putting yourself out there because you’re afraid of being rejected. However, if you’ve taken the time to think about why you like this person and you’re convinced they’re right for you, and you think that there’s a possibility they might like you back, just go for it!
    • Even if you put yourself out there and they say no, you can tell yourself that you were brave and bold, and you should be proud of yourself for trying.

    EXPERT TIP Elvina Lui is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in relationship counseling based in the San Francisco Bay Area. Elvina received her Masters in Counseling from Western Seminary in 2007 and trained under the Asian Family Institute in San Francisco and the New Life Community Services in Santa Cruz. Our Expert Agrees: Don’t let fear get the best of you. If you want a relationship with this person, you are seeing something in them that opened your heart. Don’t be afraid to take a leap of faith instead of letting love slip through your fingers.

  5. 5 Consider letting it go if they don’t seem interested. It can be really hard to accept that your crush doesn’t like you, but it does happen sometimes. If you’ve tried spending time getting to know them, but they don’t seem to be sending back the same signals, take a step back and consider whether they’re really the best match for you.
    • You should probably move on if the other person doesn’t respond to your texts, they seem disinterested or annoyed when you’re talking, or if they tease you in a mean-spirited way. Also, they’re probably not interested if they talk about other love interests in front of you.
    • Avoid approaching a crush who is already in a relationship, as this is just likely to cause unpleasant drama.

    Dating Advice: Remember, someone who likes you should never make you feel bad about yourself, If your crush does that, you should focus your attention on someone who builds you up, instead.

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  1. 1 Try to tell your crush sooner rather than later. Once you’ve decided that you’re going to tell your crush you like them, try to make your move quickly. The longer you wait, the harder it will be, and the more you’re likely to overthink it.
    • Even if your crush says no, telling them sooner will give you a chance to move on more quickly. If they say yes, you can move on to your relationship faster!
    • If you’re having trouble working up the courage to tell them, set a deadline for yourself and write it on your calendar.
  2. 2 Try to pick a time when the other person isn’t busy, stressed, or tired. Even if your crush likes you back, it can come as a big emotional surprise to hear that you have feelings for them. If the person you’re like is already dealing with a lot, that can be an overwhelming conversation to have.
    • For instance, if you know your crush has a big presentation coming up, they’re starting a new job, they’re not feeling well, or they were up late studying, be considerate and give them a little space.
  3. 3 Wait until it’s just the two of you alone. If you tell your crush you like them in front of all of their friends, they might feel embarrassed or put on the spot. To avoid that, try to find a time when the two of you can have a private conversation. Either invite them to meet you somewhere, ask them to walk with you, or approach them when they’re on their own.
    • If you’re both hanging out in a big group, for instance, you might say something like, “Hey Jess, I’m going to grab a drink and I wanted to talk to you for a sec. Wanna come?” By keeping it casual, you can help put them at ease.
    • You could also text your crush with something like, “Wait for me after your last class and I’ll walk you home.” That way, you’ll have some time to talk, but you’re not springing your feelings on them during their school day.
  4. 4 Call or text the other person if you’re too shy to tell them in person. If having a face-to-face conversation seems nerve-wracking, you might want to consider calling or texting your crush. Get your crush’s number, then send them a text asking if they have a minute to talk. If they’re free, give them a call or send them a straightforward text letting them know your feelings.
    • This can help take some of the pressure off of the other person, too, since they won’t have to come up with an answer right away.
    • The same rules apply to a phone call or text conversation as an in-person chat. Try to make sure you have the other person’s undivided attention, and avoid telling them how you feel while they’re feeling stressed out or tired.
  5. 5 Try video chatting if you have a long-distance crush. If there’s someone you really like but you don’t have the chance to see them often, try asking them to video chat! There are a number of apps available that will allow you to have a face-to-face conversation, as long as you have a cell phone with a front-facing camera or a computer with a webcam.
    • Some of the more popular options for video chatting include Facebook, Skype, Snapchat, or FaceTime if you both have an iPhone or Mac.
  6. 6 Give yourself an escape plan. Don’t spring your feelings on your crush if you’re both going to be stuck in close proximity for a long time. That could lead to a really drawn out, awkward experience for both of you if they don’t share your feelings. Also, make sure you plan to give your crush a little space to think about things before answering.
    • For instance, it’s probably not a good idea to tell someone you like them at the beginning of a long car ride, since neither of you will have the option of walking away if things feel uncomfortable.
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  • Question How do I tell someone that I like them? Connell Barrett is a Relationship Expert and the Founder and Executive Coach of Dating Transformation in New York City. Connell has over five years of experience as an international coach who helps men connect with women by unlocking their best, true, most confident selves. Dating Coach Expert Answer Support wikiHow by unlocking this expert answer. Wait until a time where you’re alone and have some time together. Start off with some casual conversation before telling them directly. If they respond positively, try asking them out on a date.
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See more answers Ask a Question 200 characters left Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. Submit Advertisement Article Summary X Telling someone you like them can be scary, but finding a quiet time for the conversation can make it easier.

  • Once you decide you want to tell your crush how you feel, go for it! If you wait, you’re more likely to overthink it.
  • If you’re having a hard time working up the courage to tell them, set a deadline for yourself.
  • If possible, pick a time when your crush isn’t busy, stressed, or rushing around so they can give you their full attention.

You’ll also want to wait until the 2 of you are alone to avoid being interrupted or embarrassing yourself in front of your friends. You can also call or text your crush if you feel too shy to talk to them in person. To learn how to watch for signs that your crush likes you too, keep reading! Did this summary help you? Thanks to all authors for creating a page that has been read 568,433 times.

How can I confess to my crush?

Confessing your feelings to a crush can be a nerve-wracking experience, but it can also be a liberating and exciting one. From writing a letter to going on a date, here are some ways to confess your feelings for your crush. – Confession Day: Anti-Valentine’s Week is an occasion celebrated by those who are not in a romantic relationship or who simply do not enjoy Valentine’s Day,

This week is a chance for people to express their independence and embrace their single status. The week starts on February 15 and ends on February 21, with each day having a different theme. On the fifth day of Anti-Valentine’s Week, people celebrate Confession Day on February 19. This day offers a chance for individuals to confess their thoughts, feelings, or emotions to another person.

Confessing your feelings to a crush can be a nerve-wracking experience, but it can also be a liberating and exciting one. Here are some ways to confess your feelings for your crush. (Also read: Confession Day 2023: Wishes, image, gifs, quotes to share on this day ) Confession day offers a chance for individuals to confess their thoughts, feelings, or emotions to another person.(Unsplash) 1. Write a letter or note: Sometimes, it’s easier to express your feelings in writing. Write a letter or note to your crush, expressing your feelings and explaining why you like them.

  • You can give it to them in person or leave it somewhere for them to find.2.
  • Use a creative approach: Get creative and use a fun approach to confess your feelings.
  • You can create a piece of art or a poem that expresses your feelings or make a video or a song to share with them.3.
  • Ask them on a date: Sometimes, the best way to confess your feelings is to ask your crush out on a date.

You can make it clear that you have feelings for them and would like to get to know them better.4. Be straightforward: If you’re comfortable with it, you can be straightforward and simply tell your crush how you feel. Be honest, open, and direct, and let them know that you’re interested in them.5.

  • Use a mutual friend: If you’re too nervous to confess your feelings directly, you can ask a mutual friend to help you out.
  • Ask them to talk to your crush and see if they feel the same way, or to pass on a message from you.
  • Remember, no matter how you choose to confess your feelings, it’s important to be respectful of your crush’s feelings and to handle their response gracefully.

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Is it OK to like a girl if you’re a girl?

Am I gay? What are these feelings I’m feeling? – Do you want to stare at this girl for socially unacceptable amounts of time? Do you think she smells like good poetry? Have you memorized the order of her Facebook profile photos purely by accident? Yeah, you might like a girl.

Your feelings for another girl don’t mean the world is going to collapse around you though! Promise! As for whether this means you’re gay.the truth of the matter is that nobody can answer that but yourself. There are no rules: You don’t have to label yourself gay or or queer or any other word simply over butterfly feelings.

In fact, you don’t ever have to label yourself. is more than a spectrum or a gay-straight binary with bi firmly in the middle. There are a bajillion places being a girl who likes a girl might lead. You could realize you’re 100% only into girls, but it might also mean you like kissing girls but really want a relationship with guys, or maybe it means something else entirely.

The possibilities are truly endless. As 19-year-old Isabela Villareal explains, “I identify as queer because I believe sexuality is a fluid concept. While I might fall for a woman now, I may develop a crush on a trans man some day. My sexuality and attraction to people doesn’t rely on gender.” But remember: Identification isn’t for everyone, and there’s,

“Labeling is more harmful than helpful to me because I’m so new to this,” says 20-year old Naomi Waltengus. “I’m hesitant to give myself a label that might not fit. I don’t want people questioning me or asking me to prove myself.” So rather than categorizing yourself the second there’s a Valentine in your heart, take a minute to breathe: Your feelings don’t have to dictate your entire identity from now until forever.

How do I give my crush hints?

Drop a few hints – If you’re feeling extra nervous about revealing your feelings, try hinting at your crush that you’re into them and see how they respond. Make eye contact when you’re talking to them, or hold their gaze for a couple of extra seconds when your eyes meet in the hallway.

Should I admit to my crush?

Download Article Download Article Being shy is not rare and it’s nothing to embarrassed about. Even outgoing people may feel shy when it comes to their crush, so it’s normal to be nervous. If you would like to confess your feelings, but feel a little apprehensive, there are many ways you can overcome this will take a little work.

  1. 1 Ease your shyness by engaging with others. If you’re already shy, talking to your crush right away can be scary. Luckily, you can try to ease some of your social anxiety by reaching out to others first. Socializing more in general will help you feel comfortable eventually approaching your crush.
    • Start small. Try to make small talk whenever possible. For example, talk to classmates between classes or chat up a barista at a coffee shop.
    • Think about joining clubs or doing volunteer work. This is a great way to meet people and push yourself out of your comfort zone by making yourself engage more.
    • Relax if it feels stressful at first. Eventually, talking to other will be easy.
    • For instance, you might ask a random person for restaurant recommendations, or ask a customer for their opinion in a department store.
  2. 2 Talk to someone you trust. It can be hard to deal with the anxiety associated with having a crush. A great way to sort through your feelings is reaching out to others. Talk to a trusted friend or adult about the feelings you’re having and ask them for advice on how to deal.
    • Be careful who you tell, however. Pick someone who’s good at keeping secrets and who you trust not to tell anyone. It can be embarrassing to have your crush revealed by someone other than yourself.
    • Try talking with a trusted friend or loved one right before you go out and meet new people.


  3. 3 Take steps to get to know your crush better. If you already like this person, getting to know them should be fun. The better you know your crush, the more confident you’ll feel. Take small steps to get to know your crush better over time.
    • Make conversation with your crush whenever you can. For example, if you are on the school newspaper together, talk to them before and after meetings. You can even use your observations as conversation starters, like commenting on an outfit they’re wearing.
    • Try to get to know your crush as a friend. Invite them out with your group of friends for a group activity, like seeing a movie.
  4. 4 Dress to feel confident. It may seem like a small thing, but confidence can actually help a lot with shyness. If you’re feeling shy, try changing the way you dress. Splurge on some new clothes that make you feel great about yourself. Wear them to places where you know you’ll encounter your crush. If you’re dressed up in a way you enjoy, this may make you feel a little bolder around your crush.
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  1. 1 Write a note. If you’re very shy, you may feel better confessing your feelings in writing. Many shy people feel like they’re better at expressing themselves in writing. Think about writing your crush a note letting them know how you feel about them and leaving it somewhere like their locker or desk. You can also try composing an e-mail for your crush.
    • For example, write something like, “Hey, I’m too shy to say it in words, but I wanted you to know I have feelings for you.”
    • Say somewhere in the letter that you’re shy, however, and this is why you’re confessing in writing. People sometimes get offended that people do not talk over romantic feelings face to face.
    • Do not send an anonymous e-mail or letter. This could easily backfire if your crush assumes the letter is from someone else or is put off by you being so indirect.
  2. 2 Make hints through actions and casual chatting. When chatting with your crush, try to drop hints that you like them. Use things like social media and text to send them messages like, “Hi!” and use emojis like smiley faces and hearts. Exclamation marks work to make your message more expressive.
  3. 3 Get a very close friend and tell them how you feel. This can work if you’re very shy and the friend you choose is someone you greatly trust. Make sure they’ll convey the message you want in the fashion you want. You do not want to pick a friend who’s likely to skew your words or intentions.
    • Keep in mind, this is usually not the best method to confess indirectly as it puts your friend in a difficult position. Only use this method if you’re really struggling to overcome your shyness and have been crushing on the person for a long time.
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  1. 1 Make sure confessing is the right idea. Keep in mind, you don’t always have to confess a crush, especially if confessing will only cause you anxiety. If confessing doesn’t feel like a good idea, give yourself a pass and simply don’t do it. Think about what you want out of the situation.
    • If you decide not to confess, you can talk over your feelings with a close friend or family member instead. They can help you manage your emotions surrounding the crush so you can cope on your end without having to confess.
  2. 2 Take small steps at first. There is no need to confess all at once, especially if you’re feeling nervous. You can work your way up to confessing by taking baby steps. Start by getting a little more flirtatious with your crush to make your feelings more apparent.
    • For example, ask your crush to hang out one on one. It won’t be a date, but it’s a chance for you to spend time with them alone. This can help you get more comfortable with them, making confessing easier.
    • Try to pay your crush some compliments. Let them know what you like about them. This can make it easier to eventually tell them you like them romantically.
  3. 3 Find the right moment. Ideally, you should confess your feelings when you and your crush have some privacy. Once you feel comfortable with the idea of confessing your feelings, invite your crush somewhere like a quiet coffee shop or out for a walk. Then, when you’re out together, confess how you feel.
  4. 4 Don’t assume rejection. You can’t know how someone else feels without asking them first. Going into the situation assuming you will be rejected will only make you more nervous. Acknowledge that you do not know how your crush is going to react and try not to imagine possible scenarios. Simply approach the situation from a neutral perspective.
    • Remind yourself that, no matter the outcome, at least you’ll know. Having a crush, especially one you’ve been nurturing for a long time, can be exhausting. Sometimes, it’s a relief to know the outcome either way.
  5. 5 Be upfront and honest. Do not beat around the bush. Tell the other person how you feel directly and let them know why you’re confessing. This can be difficult if you’re really shy, but if you’ve spent time building up confidence, you should feel a little better about confessing.
    • Say something like, “I wanted to tell you something. It’s a little hard for me to say, but I think you should know that I have feelings for you.”
    • Let them know what you want from them. For example, “I’d just like to know if the feelings are returned at all.”
  6. 6 Be kind to yourself if you get rejected. Rejection happens. Almost everyone will be romantically rejected at some point in life. Be kind to yourself if your crush rejects you. Do something nice for yourself, like taking yourself shopping or watching a movie, and find close friends and family members to vent to.
    • It can help to have others share stories of their own heartbreaks. This can be a reminder that you’re not alone.
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Does she like me or not?

Download Article Easy ways to tell if she likes you as more than a friend (and what you can do about it) Download Article She glances your way, laughs at your jokes, and acts nervously around you. You’re not sure if she’s flirting, being friendly, or is simply uninterested. Whether you’ve had a crush on a girl for ages and are dying to know if the feeling is mutual or you just want to know if she likes you for curiosity’s sake, we’ll help you out.

  • Look at how she acts when she’s around you—open body language, eye contact, and physical touch are signs that she could be interested.
  • See what she says during a conversation; if she likes you, she might compliment you (or even tease you).
  • Get the ball rolling by offering her a smile and striking up a conversation. Take the plunge and ask her out if you think that she’s interested in you.
  1. 1 Look for open body language, When a girl likes you, she often faces your direction. If a girl turns her torso toward you in an open manner, she likely feels confident talking with you. If she has a closed body position, namely crossed arms or legs, she may be shy or nervous to talk to you or she may simply be creating a barrier to show that she’s uninterested.
    • If she’s sitting with her legs crossed, watch her feet. If they are pointed toward you, it might mean that she likes you and wants to get closer to you.
    • Generally speaking, a girl will stand closer to you and have more relaxed body language if she feels comfortable around you—for example, she’ll have relaxed shoulders and won’t cross her arms. But, everyone’s personality and cultural upbringing are different, so don’t take it as a sign she’s not into you if this isn’t the case.
  2. 2 Pay attention to eye contact, If a girl likes you, she tends to either hold her gaze on you for a few seconds or glance down the moment your eyes make contact with hers. Either of these responses could mean that she likes you. If she pulls away quickly, it often means that she’s nervous or not ready to reveal her true intentions yet, but she may still like you.
    • When a girl likes you, her pupils might dilate (though this may be hard to tell).
    • If you happen to glance at the girl and you see her staring back at you, this could mean that she likes you.


  3. 3 Notice if she touches you or tries to get closer. When a girl likes you, she often tries to touch you, as this is a noticeable yet still subtle way to flirt. It allows a girl to size up how responsive you are. She may touch your arm when you say something funny, “accidentally” brush your shoulder or hands with hers, or gently place her hand on your knee.
    • Not all girls will feel comfortable reaching out using touch. In this case, don’t assume that she doesn’t like you just because she doesn’t try to touch you. She may be too nervous to do so. If you like her, don’t be shy––break the touch barrier yourself and see how she responds.
    • She may also find other reasons to touch you, such as softly punching your arm. These “one-of-the-mates” moves can be a thinly disguised way of getting closer to you without it being too obvious to your friends and hers.
  4. 4 Pay attention to whether she randomly hugs you. This is especially significant if her random hugs are reserved mostly for you. Hugs are a friendly, affectionate way of getting closer to you and touching you without it necessarily compromising her stealthy flirting skills. Return the hug if you like her back, or gently refuse her hug if you don’t want her to get the wrong impression.
  5. 5 See if she mirrors your moves. If a girl imitates you—for example, if you run your fingers through your hair and you notice her do the same a few seconds later—she may be subconsciously mirroring your movements. This can be a tell that she likes you.
  6. 6 Notice if she’s playing with her hair. If a girl runs her fingers through her hair or brushes her hair back every once in a while, it can be a sign that she’s flirting with you,
  7. 7 Look for signs of nervousness or fidgeting. When a girl likes you, she may touch her lips, collarbone, or neck to draw your attention to these areas. She may even apply lipstick in front of you.
  8. 8 Notice if she smiles around you. This may be her way of letting you know that she’s comfortable and happy in your presence. When a girl likes you, she may also laugh at your jokes (regardless of how funny they actually are).
  9. 9 Take context into account. The way you interpret a girl’s body language varies depending on the context. For example, if you’re talking one-on-one with a girl, her touching your arm for a few seconds could be considered flirting. However, if she quickly taps your shoulder to get your attention and tell you that your friend is looking for you, she may really just be trying to help, not flirt.
    • If you are having an intense conversation, a girl may look at you without breaking eye contact. This does not necessarily mean she likes you. It could just be a conversational practice of hers. However, if she makes eye contact with you for an extended period of time without talking, or if she looks at you and breaks away the minute you look back at her, she may be intrigued by you.
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  1. 1 Be receptive to compliments. If a girl compliments you, she could very well like you. This may be her way of making you feel desired.
    • She might say things like “you have amazing eyes” or “you’re so athletic—do you play any sports?”
  2. 2 Observe her friends’ reactions. If you see most of her friends glancing back at you and smiling or giggling, this probably means that she has told her friends about you and they’re “in the know.” In some cases, a friend may actually be bold enough to come and tell you that her friend likes you.
    • When she is having a conversation with her friends and you come over, they might stop talking all of a sudden. This likely means that you were the subject of the recently ended conversation.
  3. 3 Notice her style. When a girl likes you, she will often try to impress you with her style. She may choose to wear slightly revealing clothes or put on lipstick to catch your eye.
    • Every girl has a different sense of style, and not all girls will try to dress as aforementioned when they like somebody. However, if you notice that the girl you’re wondering about dresses a little more nicely around you, it could be a sign that she wants to impress you.
  4. 4 Be mindful of gentle, friendly teasing. When a girl likes you, she may tease you lightly about certain things you do or say. Ways of teasing include calling you out on a joke that actually wasn’t that funny, poking fun at something you’re wearing, or lightly telling you that you’re trying too hard.
  5. 5 Notice if she makes excuses to talk to you. She may “friend” you on social media, talk to you in person every day after class, or text you randomly. These could be signs that this girl is intrigued and wants to get to know you more.
    • This alone isn’t a definitive sign that a girl likes you. A girl who just wants to be friends may also try to engage in conversation with you. But if a girl tries to talk to you often, displays a lot of flirty body language, and compliments you often, she may be trying to tell you that she likes you.
  6. 6 Notice if she mentions your relationship status. When a girl likes you, she will want to know whether you are single or not so that she can decide if she should flirt with you. She may directly ask you if you have a girlfriend or she may use a subtler approach.
    • She might tease you by saying things like “I bet you went to see that movie with your girlfriend.” If you like her, use this as an opportunity to flirt back. You could say “I don’t have a girlfriend, but I have been meaning to see that movie.want to go with me Friday night?”
  7. 7 Look for “damsel in distress” moments. When a girl likes you, she may pretend to be in a mildly vulnerable situation to test your response. For example, if you’re outside and the girl you like starts saying “I’m cold!” that’s a subtle hint that she wants you to give her your sweater. Doing so is a very sweet gesture, especially if you want to show the girl that you like her.
    • Sometimes a girl will pretend to be really bad at doing something, like saying she doesn’t understand the homework. That is your chance to offer some assistance; be aware that she will most likely be doing this on purpose just to test your reaction in hopes that you will help out.
    • If she doesn’t fancy you but there is somebody she likes in the room, she may pout or show other signs of disappointment if you offer to help first. In this case, at least you’ll know how she feels and will be able to move on.
  8. 8 Test her interest by asking her for help. If she’s always there for you when you need her, she might like you. But don’t assume that she’s into you only from one experience. Ask her occasionally for small things, like chewing gum or a pen, and notice how she reacts. If she’s eager to help you and shows other signs of liking you, then she very well might.
    • Don’t use this approach too much or tasks that seem too difficult, she may think you’re lazy, testing her, or are even a bit of a nuisance. So don’t overdo it; you don’t want to risk her ceasing to like you if she actually does.
  9. 9 Notice how she acts around others. If a girl flirts with you, it doesn’t necessarily mean that she likes you. She may just get a thrill out of flirting, or she may not even notice that she’s flirting. The best way to tell is to notice how she acts around other people.
    • If she treats you differently than she does others, be it by holding eye contact just a bit longer with you than with anybody else or by being gentler in her teasing with you, then she may like you.
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  1. 1 Smile at her. A natural, genuine, carefree smile is the perfect way to let a girl know that you like being around her. It will also let her know that you’re a happy person, and since happiness can be contagious, she’ll associate positive emotions with you. If she returns your smile, you can bet she feels comfortable around you.
  2. 2 Strike up a conversation, This is a great way to gauge her interest level. As you talk, notice if she gives you any signs or hints that she likes you or if she uses vaguely romantic language. She could also show her interest in you by nodding frequently or repeating some of your phrases.
    • To start a conversation, you can ask her an open-ended question about class, work, or pop culture. It could be something as simple as “what do you think about this band?” or “how’s your day going?”
    • Don’t fret if the girl you like doesn’t initiate a conversation with you. If she likes you, she may be too shy or nervous to do so! Even if she seems like the most confident girl you know, she may have had a bad experience in the past or simply may not be ready to approach you yet but will be receptive if you start the conversation first.
    • If you’re already friends, starting a conversation will be easy. In this case, the most effective way to tell if she likes you is to pick up on body language cues or to see if she treats you differently than she does her other friends.
  3. 3 Be attentive. If you like the girl, put your best foot forward by remembering a few small details about the things she tells you. Listen carefully to the things she says so that you will have them for future reference.
    • For example, if she tells you the name of her favorite band, bring up one of the band’s songs during your next chat. She’ll be impressed that you took notice! If she wasn’t already interested in you romantically, she might start to reconsider once she sees how attentive you are.
    • Talking also provides another opportunity to observe her body language, so watch for physical cues such as subtle touches.
  4. 4 Suggest that you like her, Only do this if you actually do like her and if you get the sense that she likes you back. This is a blunt move that can seem daunting, but if you like the girl and are fairly certain she might like you back, a bold approach which could open the door to you asking her out on a date with the certainty that she likes you back.
    • You can let her know you’re interested in them by saying something like “I really like having you as a friend, but I’d love to be more than friends.”
    • Don’t tell her you like her if you are just looking to satisfy your curiosity about her interest in you. This can be hurtful and can sever her trust in you.
  5. 5 Ask her out, If you like the girl but aren’t sure if she likes you back, you can test the waters by saying “I’ve been hearing great things about this movie,_. Would you like to come and see it with me?” Keep the tone casual. If she says yes, you’ll know she’s interested. If she says no, you can change the conversation to something else.
  6. 6 Be receptive to her signals. Back off if you get the sense that she actually doesn’t like you or engage in a flirty banter if you sense there is mutual interest.
    • Don’t take it personally if she declines your romantic advances, even when you thought she liked you back. A good relationship starts with a strong mutual connection. Moreover, there are plenty of other girls who will be right for you.
  7. 7 Avoid overanalyzing. Trying to figure out whether a girl likes you can be all-consuming and distracting. Overanalyzing her behavior may result in your becoming obsessed with simply “winning her over” rather than getting to know her as a person.
    • Rather than investing tons of time in determining whether or not she likes you, take opportunities every now and then to spend time with her and her friends. Just make sure to make your intentions relatively clear (via subtle flirting), or else you may become permanently “friend-zoned.”
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Is it OK to flirt over text?

Skip to content How To Flirt Over Text (With Examples!) It’s hard to believe that just 20 years ago, you had to call someone up on the phone or meet up IRL to get your flirt on. Now, you can let someone know you’re into them by simply typing out a quick message, adding a couple of emojis for good measure, and hitting “send.” Flirting via text is an art, however — the key is to make your interest clear while still maintaining some intrigue, and to show confidence without coming on too strong.

How should I tell my crush I like them over text?

Download Article Download Article Text messaging is a great way to talk to someone you like if you’re a little too shy or nervous to approach them in person. It lets you control exactly what you say and might help you be a little more forward than you otherwise would be.

  1. 1 Say “hi” and ask a question to break the ice, Rather than just saying “Hey,” or “What’s up?” come to the convo with a plan. For example, you could say something like, “Hi Brian, did you get the homework assignment for English class? I forgot to write it down.” Or, “Hey Luke! I saw you got a part in the school play. Do you know if they’re looking for help backstage?”
    • You could also comment rather than asking a question. Instead of saying, “What did you think about History class today?” you could say something like, “I thought I was going to die of boredom during class today. Mr. Rogers does NOT make the Civil War very interesting.” This starts a conversation while also letting you share some of your personality with your crush.

    Tip: Be brave and text them first! There’s no reason why you should have to wait for them to reach out to you.

  2. 2 Get them to open up with open-ended questions, Open-ended questions are ones that require more than a “yes” or “no” answer, and they’re a great way for you to get to know your crush better and keep a conversation going. Ask about their favorite movies, books, games, TV shows, YouTube channels, places to visit, or anything else you can think of.
    • For example, instead of asking, “Do you like movies?” ask, “What are your top 3 favorite movies?”
    • Instead of asking, “Did you have a nice weekend?” ask, “What did you do this weekend?”


  3. 3 Give detailed responses to texts rather than one-word answers. Don’t be afraid to share your own opinions ! The fastest way to kill a conversation is to send a “k” or “yeah” response to a text. If you have something in common with your crush, talk about it. Feel free to disagree with them, too—sometimes different opinions can help keep the conversation going.
    • For example, if your crush thinks a specific Marvel movie is the best and you disagree, tell them why! You could get into a great discussion about the different characters and storylines.
    • If you don’t know exactly what your crush is referring to, ask them about it. For example, if their favorite bands are ones you’ve never heard of, say something like, “I’ve never listened to them before. Which album is your favorite? I’ll give it a listen!”
  4. 4 Give them a compliment to flatter them. The key to giving a good compliment is for you to be sincere and to keep it short. For example, text something like, “You did a great job in the game last Friday!” or, “I was impressed by how well you did on your project in class. Good job!”
    • Feel free to send a compliment text on its own even if you aren’t talking about anything else. Just wait for a response from your crush before sending another one.
    • Avoid saying anything about your feelings when you send these kinds of texts. Saying something like, “I don’t know if I should say this because it feels kind of weird, but I think you’re a great baseball player,” makes it weird! Just be direct and say, “You’re a great baseball player!”

    Sending Flirty Compliments: “I love the cologne you wear! What brand is it?” “I’m so glad you were in class during my presentation today! It was nice to see your face when I looked up.” “I never noticed before how GREEN your eyes are. That shirt you wore today made them pop.” “Can’t wait to hear what you think of the most recent season of Stranger Things!”

  5. 5 Include emojis and GIFs to showcase your sense of humor. Try to find emojis and GIFs that relate to what you’re talking about. For example, if you’re texting about being bored over the weekend, send a GIF of someone falling asleep at their desk. Or, include a message typed entirely in emojis so that your crush has to decipher what you’re saying.
    • Get creative and have fun with your texting conversation! It’s a great way to start to feel more comfortable with your crush so that you can eventually tell them you like them.
  6. 6 Send your crush funny memes and videos that remind you of them. The next time you find a meme or video that makes you laugh, send it to your crush with a message that says something like, “This made me think of you!” with the laughing emoji. You could even say something like, “I was thinking of you. Hope you like this!”
    • For example, if your crush shared that they love cats, find a compilation of funny cat videos on YouTube and send it to them with a message that says, “For you, cat lover,” with the cat emoji.
    • Telling your crush that you’re thinking of them is a great way to inch toward more flirty texting.
  7. 7 Tease them about their quirks or things you disagree on. Make sure to be kind and playful, and avoid teasing them about something that could hurt their feelings. For example, it’s not a great idea to tease your crush about a stutter if they have one. But, if they told you that they still like to watch a movie that they loved when they were little, you could definitely tease them about that.
    • For example, send a GIF from their secret favorite movie or TV show and say something like, “I know what your Friday night plans are!” with a winky-face emoji or the tongue-sticking-out emoji.
    • Or, if you think that Ron Weasley from the Harry Potter series is the best character and they think that Hermione Granger is the best, say something like, “Well I can’t trust your opinion, HERMIONE LOVER!” with the laughing emoji.

    Tip: If you do accidentally hurt your crush’s feelings, deal with it directly. Say something like, “I’m sorry I hurt your feelings. I was trying to be funny but it obviously didn’t work! Oops!” with the embarrassed-face emoji.

  8. 8 Ask for their opinion or recommendation for something cool to do. Not only is this flattering, but it also could allow you to ask your crush to hang out. Try saying something like, “My friends and I are looking for a good coffee shop to study at. Where do you like to go?” Or, “I’m so bored! I need a new TV show to binge. What do you recommend?”
    • A great way to follow up on this is to actually go to the place or do the thing they recommended and then send a followup text. For example, you could say, “I started watching Riverdale and I LOVE it. Can’t wait to see what happens next,” with a GIF from the show.
    • If they said you should check out a new coffee shop in town, take a trip with some friends and then shoot him a message that says something like, “I tried out that new coffee shop and loved it! It was so good! Thanks for the suggestion.”
    • If you want to try asking them to hang out, wait a week and send a text that says, “Hey, I’m going to that coffee shop you recommended today. Want to meet up and study?”
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  1. 1 Send your crush a casual text to start a conversation, While you could just send a single text confessing your feelings, that could make you go a little crazy waiting for a response. If you text your crush something general first and get a response, you’ll at least know that they’re near their phone. Try asking a question or making a statement about something you’ve already talked about.
    • For example, you could say something like, “I need to study for exams next week, but I just can’t focus! All I want to do is nap!”
  2. 2 Text back and forth a few times to figure out what kind of mood they’re in. If your crush is in a bad mood or out with their friends, it’s probably not the best time for you to confess your feelings. Try asking them what they’re up to, if they have plans, or how they’re doing. Their answers should clue you in to how they’re feeling.
    • If their response is short or takes a long time to arrive, you may want to put off the conversation for another day.

    Tip: If waiting for the “perfect moment” is keeping you from sending that ultimate “I like you” text, try giving yourself a deadline. Some moments will definitely be better than others, but in the end, no moment is truly “perfect.” If you need to, pick a date and say that by the date you’ll have made your move.

  3. 3 Craft a short message that tells your crush that you like them. Try to not go into a ton of detail. Short and simple is the best way for you to say what you need to say. Try something like, “I like you. Let’s hang out sometime!” or, “I wanted to tell you that I have a crush on you. No pressure or anything. I just wanted to share my feelings.”
    • If you’ve been texting with your crush for a few weeks and sending flirty messages back and forth, it probably won’t be a big surprise to them that you like them.
    • A long, drawn-out message about the intricacies of your feelings could be overwhelming. You want to give your crush space to respond, and you also want to communicate that you respect their feelings, no matter what.
  4. 4 Refrain from sending followup texts until you get a response. It will be super hard to wait for a response, but sending multiple messages in a row will make you look clingy and desperate, and it could muddle the situation. Try putting your phone away and doing something else for a while, like taking a walk, going to a movie, or reorganizing your closet.
    • If they don’t respond to you at all, that may be your answer. Hopefully, they won’t do that to you and will respond even if they don’t have the same feelings.
  5. 5 Think about your crush’s texting habits when reading their response. Does it normally take your crush a few minutes, hours, or days to respond to a text? Do they normally use emojis and full sentences, or do they tend to respond with short sentences? Picking up on differences between how they normally respond versus how they did respond could clue you in to what they’re thinking.
    • For example, if you normally get a really fast response but don’t hear back for several hours after you tell them you like them, that could mean they were taking their time and thinking about how to respond.
    • If they normally send thoughtful texts with emojis and GIFs but respond to your text with a single word or short response, it could mean they’re uncomfortable and don’t feel the same way.
    • Remember, each person will respond differently to being told that someone likes them. Some people will need time to figure out their feelings if they haven’t thought about it yet.
  6. 6 Celebrate a positive response by asking your crush to hang out one-on-one. If you find out that your crush likes you back, that is awesome! Try sending a followup text that says something like, “Phew, that was a stressful moment! So glad you feel the same way! We should get together this Friday and see that new movie! Maybe get dinner together beforehand?”
    • If you aren’t allowed to hang out romantically with people one-on-one yet, try initiating a group hang out, like going to the movies, bowling, playing putt-putt, or going to a school event.
  7. 7 Deal with a negative response by giving your crush some space, If they don’t respond the way you had hoped, it’s okay to be upset. Don’t send followup texts asking them why they don’t like you or trying to pretend that you weren’t being serious. Just say something simple, like, “I totally get it. I hope we can still be friends!”
    • Try to remember that there is nothing wrong with putting yourself out there, and just because they said they don’t like you like that doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong with you.
  8. 8 Be proud of yourself for doing something hard, no matter the outcome. Whether your crush likes you back or not, you did something that people all over the world find intimidating. You should take a moment to appreciate how much you’ve grown as a person and what you’ve learned about yourself in the process.
    • You could even spend some time reflecting on what you would like to do differently in the future. Take each opportunity like this as a learning experience!
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  • Question Should you ask your crush out over text or in person? John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. Dating Coach Expert Answer You can totally ask them out over text if that’s been the main way you two have been communicating.
  • Question What should I say if I don’t know him that well yet? John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. Dating Coach Expert Answer Just keep things light and don’t try to probe too much. Ask him how his day is going, or send him a funny meme or something like that. It’s hard to have a super deep conversation over text, so don’t push it too hard when it comes to the complicated questions.
  • Question My crush just asked me if I like him but I don’t know if he likes me back. I mean he smiles at me and texts me regularly, but what should I say? Sarah Battilana Community Answer Try being honest with him if you feel like you’re ready to share your feelings. If you aren’t, try asking “Why do you ask?” This could draw him out and get him to confess his feelings first.

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  • If you can never get your crush to open up or respond to your texts, that means they’re probably not interested and you should try to move on.
  • Try to take a break from your phone every once in a while. It can be hard to put your phone down when you’re waiting to get a text back, but try putting it away for an hour or so every day just so you don’t get too obsessed.

Advertisement Article Summary X If you’re shy about talking to your crush directly, flirting over text is a great way to share your feelings. Send him a text to say “hi” and ask a question to break the ice, like “What did you think of biology class today?” You could also send a compliment, a joke, or a funny picture to set a lighthearted mood.

  1. Chat back and forth a bit to get a sense of how he’s feeling.
  2. If it seems like he’s relaxed and in the mood to talk, say something like, “I really like you.
  3. We should hang out more.” You could even say, “Hey, I’ve been wanting to tell you for a while that I have a crush on you.” Don’t put pressure on your crush to answer right away—give him time to respond.

If he says he likes you back, try making plans to hang out. If he tells you he doesn’t feel the same way, respect his answer. Say something like, “I understand. I hope we can still hang out as friends.” For more advice, including how to flirt with your crush by playfully teasing him over text, read on! Did this summary help you? Thanks to all authors for creating a page that has been read 661,499 times.